19 Jul 2015

12 Things I Learnt About Friendship


Everyday I am grateful for the people I have met and formed close bonds with over the years. I know that these people will be friends for life and that we will share so many more memories than we have now. However, there are also people who I have lost contact with or don't talk to anymore and although that's all part of getting older, I still regret the friendships I lost.

Thomas Aquinas, a famous philosopher, once said that 'there is nothing on this earth more to be prized than true friendship' and I couldn't agree more. My friends and I laugh together so hard that we can't breathe, we comfort each other together, we sit and cry together and we face whatever the world throws at us together.

Here are just a few things I've learnt about friendship because 'it's not something you learn at school but if you haven't learnt the meaning of friendship, you really haven't learnt anything'- Muhammad Ali:

1. There are two types of friends you can have: The Listeners and The Talkers. Best friends are made when the two come together and it is very unlikely that you will be bestie with someone who is the same type as you. Two listeners will mean a very awkward, slow convo and two talkers will constantly clash. It's just the way of the world.

2. When your younger you can count your friends on all your fingers and all your toes but as you get older you struggle to count the close ones of one hand. And it makes you feel a bit of a failure but actually it's because life gets in the way and suddenly you have to cancel plans because you have to go to work, go to meetings, go to university, go to this and go to that.

3. Trying to get everyone together is a bit of nightmare because your friends suddenly have a life and you don't.

4. Making new friends is really hard. And awkward and weird and nerve wracking. So hang on to the ones you have with all your might.

5. There will always be people who are part of your friendship group that you have to fake liking because secretly inside you imagine ways to get rid of them.

6. And once they drift out of your life (because they always do), everything just seems so much better.

7. Sometimes we know our online friends, who live on the other side of the world, better than we know our real life ones and that's okay. It's not weird nor are they psychopaths as everyone seems to assumes.

8. Real friends don't give two shits about how your dress or how awful your skin looks today. If you feel judged by them then they obviously aren't as friendly as you first thought.

9. People who make you feel self conscious and awkward aren't really your friends.

10, Sleepovers and girly nights in are the best things in the world but get fewer and fewer as you get older so make the most of them. Pizza, popcorn and a film never gets old!

11. You have to make an effort to keep in contact with everyone once you leave education, even if they move to the other side of the world. You will spend the rest of your life regretting it if you loose touch.

12. Your mum really can be your best friend and it's not as weird as it seems.

4 comments:

  1. Making new friends is a difficult one! And yes you can know someone online better than someone in real life!

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    1. Sometimes you just have to push the boat out a bit x

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  2. lovely post. The one thing I have learnt about friendship is that, friends drift away. I have never really fallen out with any one my friends in dramatic style, we just grow apart and want different things in life x

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    1. Yeah the same has happened to me Nicole- its just a natural part of friendship x

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